(Read about when to be a “NO” person here)
Interestingly, if you google “How to be a yes person”, you will find thousands of articles that talk about how great it is being a yes person and why you should be one. If you google “How to be a no person”, you find articles advocating the opposite.
So what gives? Who’s right?
Over a couple of posts, I’m going to break it down for you. There are some key scenarios when you should try and be a yes person. Usually opportunities that bring you growth or allow you to evolve are the best reasons to say “yes”. Growth is essential and is often the key to life satisfaction and happiness.
But there are also moments when you need to say “no”. If you say yes to every opportunity that comes your way, you’ll stretch yourself thin. You may overextend yourself, committing to too many obligations. But we’ll talk more about this in a later post.
For now, I want to share three essential times to be a yes person.
Say yes to opportunities that scare you, excite you, or those that feel right.
Here’s how I break it down:
Say yes to opportunities that scare you
If someone called you and said “I’d love for you to come on TV to talk about your expertise!”, how would you feel? Most people would panic – Who – me? What do I know? What if I screw it up? What if I make a fool of myself? What if I stutter? What if I trip?
You could “what if” about all of the negative possibilities until the cows come home. Or you could recognize your fear response. Your mind is making up scenarios that have a very low likelihood of happening. Honestly, even if you did make a mistake, would it mean the end of your life or career? Not likely.
Instead, shift your mindset to see the positives: What if it’s amazing? What if you rock it? What if you earn new business because of it? What if you make new contacts from it? Looking at all of the amazing things that might go right will help you decide if it’s a good choice!
Opportunities that scare you often lead you down a road of learning and experience. They are there to push you out of your comfort zone. And didn’t you know – the greatest experiences come just outside your comfort zone?
Don’t let fear hold you back from being amazing. Say YES and see what happens!
Say yes to opportunities that excite you or make you smile
If it’s exciting, it’s probably a positive experience! For example, you get invited to an exclusive dinner hosted by your favourite restaurant to showcase their new menu. What an honour and awesome opportunity! Plus – it’s exciting because it’s your favourite restaurant.
It’s always great to say yes to these opportunities. Usually they’re exciting because they’re new or unique, and as we’ve already learned, new opportunities are key for growth! Excitement is on the other side of fear, so these experiences are bound to be awesome.
Opportunities that make you smile are also worth enjoying. Sometimes they’re not new experiences; they may simply be a coffee date with a friend. But if it’s going to bring happiness and positivity into your life, do it. We could all use more smiles in our lives, am I right? Plus, if it helps recharge you, then even better!
Say yes to opportunities that feel right
In these moments, your intuition is guiding you. You’re receiving energy or a signal pushing you into the right path.
Your intuition is incredibly powerful. You might be thinking ‘I don’t have intuition.’ Yes, my friend, you do. We all do! We’re all conscious beings, but we all have a connection to the energy in this world. For many of us, however, this connection is strained and weak. We aren’t able to tap into our intuition as well as others. We’re too focused on our thoughts and the physical world in front of us to allow our intuition to guide us.
Some of us feel our intuition but ignore it. Our rational mind takes over, and tries using logic to stop us from believing what we feel to be true. The more we ignore our intuition, the more we suppress it. The more we dull our exposure to these guiding energies or signals, and the quieter they become.
If you feel a little part of you saying “do it”, don’t ignore it. Intuition can be powerful if it’s heard. Be open to listening for it, and if you hear it, let it be acknowledged.
Say yes if your gut is telling you to do it.
But what about saying “no”?
There are plenty of amazing reasons to say yes as I’ve outlined above, but there are still many great reasons to say no. In this post I share why saying no is super powerful, and when we should consider rethinking a “yes” response.